tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8112566410387491537.post8233730087391737868..comments2023-06-29T06:19:46.900-07:00Comments on Family Ties: The Ethics of Adoption and Reproductive TechnologySusan P.http://www.blogger.com/profile/00349497879874393200noreply@blogger.comBlogger6125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8112566410387491537.post-62765646840128199372012-05-22T11:24:18.467-07:002012-05-22T11:24:18.467-07:00To me, that's what is so disturbing -- that th...To me, that's what is so disturbing -- that there seems to be such a casual attitude about creating a new life using anonymous genes. My daughter, who went to an Ivy League school, says there was aggressive on-campus marketing for women's eggs even when she attended school 15 years ago. Like adult adoptees who share their criticisms about sealed records, those donor-conceived individuals who are speaking out in public forums are lambasted for their "selfishness." There seems to be a lot more sympathy for infertile couples than there is for children who have been cut off unnecessarily from their genetic links. Other countries are recognizing the need for reform. Hopefully at some point, the US will too.Susan P.https://www.blogger.com/profile/00349497879874393200noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8112566410387491537.post-4571883860119350862012-05-22T09:32:48.060-07:002012-05-22T09:32:48.060-07:00I was out for dinner with a friend and her nephew ...I was out for dinner with a friend and her nephew and his partner joined us. They are two ivy league educated men who sat in the restaurant discussing how they want a lot of children and have argued about who will be the first "father."I almost dropped off the chair! <br /><br />Later I told my friend (who is an attorney and a child psychologist) that if her nephew and his partner pursued creating children they needed to be aware that there is a community of donor conceived individuals who are vocal and that the child will have a mother. She knows my connection to adoption and agreed that I was right. <br /><br />I am not easily taken aback but the casual attitude about hiring a surrogate stunned me. Thanks for this posting, I will share it with her.Angellehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02400662014485775139noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8112566410387491537.post-44762553043783403272012-05-22T00:21:44.904-07:002012-05-22T00:21:44.904-07:00Those who don't speak out are complicit, right...Those who don't speak out are complicit, right? isn't it for all people who see this industry as unethical and inhumane to speak out? How do those who have to deal with infertility get a chance to think it through, be supported and come to terms with their lot? There are other ways to deal with infertility that are ethical and give a good chance of conception if it is meant to be, acunpuncture for one.There is no excuse for the unethical when it comes to human life.Greed and money are certainly not good reasons for supporting or allowing bad practice.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8112566410387491537.post-58345200857874722272012-05-21T19:34:48.158-07:002012-05-21T19:34:48.158-07:00Totally agree with you here. Because so many peop...Totally agree with you here. Because so many people have now been conceived using technology, it has become politically incorrect to announce its problem areas. But that shouldn't keep people from challenging the baby train industry.<br />My nephew was conceived via IVF--the doctor placed two embryos in my SIL (and her problem had nothing to do with getting pregnant--she couldn't carry). At 28 weeks, the baby girl was lost. Their son, was born at 1.5 pounds and is almost two now. He doesn't walk, doesn't talk, and has a surgical feeding tube.<br />The risks of IVF are just not talked about. We have now learned that even a single IVF baby is at greater risk for pre-term labor, and premature birth can have severe lifelong consequences.<br />We are truly living in some wacky times. You might be interested in reading the memoir called "Inconceivable," which documents the experience one couple had after learning that the wrong embryo was implanted in the wife. I believe the other couple, whose genetic child it was, also have a memoir.<br />Lots to think about! <br />Best,<br />Jennifer :)Jenniferhttp://www.abortedadoption.blogspot.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8112566410387491537.post-13558203761214471502012-05-21T12:30:29.338-07:002012-05-21T12:30:29.338-07:00How ironic, Dana. Just as you were writing this c...How ironic, Dana. Just as you were writing this comment, I was adding your blog to my blog list! May the voices calling out for reform continue to get louder and louder. As Margie says over at Third Mom, "I think adoption is broken but worth fixing!" Glad we're linked.Susan P.https://www.blogger.com/profile/00349497879874393200noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8112566410387491537.post-69627302270365886282012-05-21T12:18:51.885-07:002012-05-21T12:18:51.885-07:00Great post. I agree with you, and yet honestly, I...Great post. I agree with you, and yet honestly, I'm sometimes reluctant to say anything because I know the heartbreak that infertile friends have experienced and don't want to upset them. I'm just being honest. But I do think this is an area where technology has gotten way ahead of ethics.Danahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09387768856636087077noreply@blogger.com