•  When I watched it, it rocked me to my core. I had believed all of this time that there were only a few stories like mine.I realized I am among the many not the few.I have been searching for my son for many years and it is as if he fell off the face of the earth. I dont know anything.The only proof I have that he was born are my medical records,prenatal,labor and delivery from F.C.H. No I did not know that FCH has a reunion registry. I guess it must be about the only one I dont belong to. To Yonkers54,you are so right!!!I am adamant about adoptees rights. Every one has the right to know their genetic make up and their hermitage. You also have the right to your original birth certificate.I believe the things they did back then were to keep both sets of parents from knowing each other and knowing the truth. The truth will always come to light.I have lived long enough to see it happen time after time. To me this one of the worst kinds of bigotry there is.

  1. All I can say is that it’s nice to know I have company!
    I was born on March 19, 1954 in Yonkers, NY. and adopted as an infant in Connecticut.
    My feelings on this topic are quite simple…while I can appreciate that a surprise visit from a child given up for adoption years ago can, in some cases, cause problems, I don’t believe that the child should be made to carry that burden.
    My biological mom and dad whom I’d love to meet do not have a a right to secrecy that surpasses my right to know who I am, my background, inherited traits, both medical and personal as well as the wealth of information about how I connect to the rest of the world…countries of origin, religion, family members, for that matter even my name!
    Can we stop punishing the children in order to protect the parents, please?
The movement towards social justice for adoptees will proceed faster as more people speak out and join the effort.  Adoptees, original parents, and adoptive parents -- please advocate for equal rights and equal access for adult adoptees.  Whether adoptions are open or not, a system that still amends and seals the legal records of adoptees routinely -- for life -- is not an equitable system, and it does not serve the best interests of the people it purports to help.

If you live in New Jersey, please join NJCARE, the New Jersey Coalition for Adoption Reform and Education.

The American Adoption Congress can keep you up to date on state-by-state legislative efforts.

The Adoptee Rights Coalition is growing and needs our help in its advocacy efforts.